I’ve found myself as a student again in this season of my life. In January, I began two classes. One of the classes posed a question that I dare you to ask those around you:
What’s it like to be on the other side of me?
Don’t just ask one person. Don’t just ask people in your immediate family. I challenge you to ask one person in your home and one person in your circle of influence this week.
Now, before you start asking, definitely be prayed up. The goal is to listen, not to respond, and take what they say away with you to ponder privately. Also, practice asking the question in such a way that you actually make it safe and give permission for the person to be honest.
Understand that this powerful question should only be asked if you want to be the best version of you. It should only be asked if you want the people around you to experience the best version of you. It should only be asked if you’ve never been on the other side of you… you get the point.
This particular class that I’m taking provides training and certification to teach some extremely effective tools that can be used in coaching, consulting, and basically any situation where two or more people are working together. If you’re interested, check out GiANT Worldwide. For the psychology geeks, they’ve taken the Myers-Briggs scientific foundation and brilliantly put it in a usable, repeatable, sticky format that helps everyone in your family, team, and organization learn how to bring the best out of one another!
Using GiANT’s language, I’m a guardian. In my best version, I ask questions and seek truth for the good of all involved. When I’m healthy, I’m a valuable teammate and family member. I’m responsible and objective. When I’m at my worst, I can be the detailer who ruins someone’s dream and I can be the nagging mom with 1,000 logistical questions.
As a family, it’s provided some interesting conversation as we each took the diagnostic to identify our respective “voice.” We’ve had fun grasping how our different strengths and weaknesses play off of each other, and how we can help value every voice and use it to believe the best about each other… but the question of what it’s like to be on the other side of you opens up the opportunity to truly grow in your Christ-likeness.
In Matthew 11:29, Jesus gave His only description of Himself. He is meek (strength under control) and humble. Isn’t that our goal?
Pray up… and ask. Then bring the responses to the Lord and ask Him to help you discern what He wants to show you and what He wants to do in you to make you more like Him.